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I am fat – why don’t you just say it as it is?

I am fat! Our author Stella Sieger couldn’t accept this for a long time! Read, how she thinks about it nowadays.

To be thin! Many women seek their fulfilment in this idea – finally being slender, sexy, desirable, beautiful, ideal, likeable. And… happy! Empty promises! How does it change your happiness? Or the people who don’t like you? Now, you’re thin, no more, no less. You’re still the same person. Fat, thin, these are just adjectives like small, big, flat or round – they describe outward appearances.

I’ve been thinking for a long time that once I was thin I’d be happy. Everyone would love me and nobody would be mean anymore. No such luck! People always find a reason for giving you a hard time. One day then I learned that my visible protective shell makes me even stronger.


I’ve changed my opinion about my obesity, it is what it is: I am fat.


As soon as I’m speaking it out loudly, I hear: “What? You’re not fat, don’t say things like that! Maybe chubby or solid, or so”. Why does anyone feel obliged to turn around the term “fat” and to describe it with friendly words? It’s only the description of something that is big and large. Large, solid, chubby or wonderfully warming are also quite popular – favourable qualities. Unfortunately, people link being fat to something negative, but it isn’t.

Another old wives’ tale: fat people are lazy! I feel like many people associate the word fat with lazy, stuffed people. Totally wrong! I’m fat indeed, but I’m doing sports regularly by eating a healthy diet. I can’t see what’s wrong with my well-covered body. That brings us back to the main topic: is well-covered an abusive term? Ample, well-nourished, impressive, well-rounded, full-figured, big strong or solid are just some of the supposedly friendly words that describe our fat pads. I’m rather feeling offended if someone says that I’m chubby, heavy or solid.

As soon as it gets to the figure topic, people start to stutter and do what they can to not sound offensive. That’s super nice but, please, say it like it is: fat. This shilly-shally is the problem because it gives the impression that obesity is something bad, and negative. But there’s nothing wrong about it. I’m fat, and that’s OK!

Last but not least let me tell you what I like in particular: We offer a lot of space for cuddling! On that note… I’m chubby, so what?!

Translation: Danielle De Bie